Wednesday, January 11, 2006

Delayed Alarm

When I was pregnant with Gretel, I was alarmed at the rate at which I was gaining weight. The professionals at my OB/GYN's office assured me that it was no problem, not to worry about it. This went on from June until November, when I suppose someone took a look at my cumulative weight gain and called attention to it. Then, at the end of my second trimester, was when my 40 pound weight gain seemed somehow off. I went on to gain ten more pounds before the pregnancy, for 50 pounds total. Well out of the range where I should have been but I was so hungry at the beginning and had no idea what types of things I should have been eating.

When I first found out I was pregnant, I begged anyone I could find for a meal plan, a chart of what foods I should be eating, what nutrients I needed and in what quantities. All I found was the hideously restrictive What To Eat When You're Expecting, which I did not find very realistic. I followed my doctor's advice and ate what I pleased, however much I pleased and didn't worry about it. Then I was diagnosed with gestational diabetes and was caught up in an alarming time of monitoring glucose levels, reporting all results to my doctor during the weekly nonstress tests that became necessary, worrying about Gretel and how she was handling it -- the baby's pancreas can sometimes kick into overdrive if the mom's isn't working properly.

The one good thing about the GD diagnosis was that I was finally given a meal plan. I was able to see a nutritionist and find out exactly what to eat, what amounts, when, and monitor the results within an hour or so. It was fantastic, and I'm so glad to have it for the next pregnancy. Because my risk of developing GD will be increased because I've already had it once, I'm going on the meal plan from the very beginning. And I think that doing it this way will help reduce that risk and also make me feel more in control about the weight gain.

The reason I'm bringing all of this up now is because at ten and a half months old, Gretel still will not sit up. She won't sit on her own and she will barely consent to sit with us sitting right behind her. She is certainly not trying to pull up on anything, cruise, stand, step on her own, etc. Joe brought up the GD story at the pediatrician's office yesterday, making the connection between no one but me seeing a problem for a long time with the weight gain and the scary results of not addressing that early on, and no one but me seeing a problem with her delayed gross motor skills and what may happen if they are not addressed. I was so surprised to hear this connection, which had not really crossed my mind before, that I just started crying right there in the office.

It's so hard not knowing the best thing to do for your child and not being able to anticipate the results of your action/inaction. I'm not sure what I can do for Gretel, her doctor isn't able to tell us anything, and so now we're waiting for a team of state specialists to give us their input. At least we're able to do something rather than just waiting for things to get really bad and then wonder why no one spotted it earlier and extended their help. Not a particularly fun entry today, but it's what's going on in my life and I figured I'd put the bad with the good on here.


At 1/11/2006 5:58 PM, Blogger celeste said...

My prayers are with you and gretel.
I don't know what gretel's situation may be, but I've read that Albert Einstein didn't speak until he was three.

At 1/14/2006 11:08 AM, Blogger Mignon said...

I came over from Orange - I'm sorry to hear about your worry... I've been reading several accounts of women worrying over the gross-motor-skill development of their children (dooce and tertia, most notably). So you're not alone!
I'm crossing my fingers for you.

At 1/14/2006 11:44 AM, Blogger Melanie said...

I certainly understand your concern for your child. I have a son with autism that I fought with doctors about his delays forever about. Trust your mommy instincts! They will never lead you astray! I also had GD with his pregnancy. My thoughts will be with you and your daughter!
BTW Michele sent me.


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